I’ve reorganized my desk. I’ve straightened my new short hair. I’ve done laundry. I’ve hung curtains. The list goes on, and I have done all of those things to avoid writing about what is on my heart… because what I have to say I am not good at. In fact, I am pretty bad at it most days. However, that’s why I started writing here because I believe that grace is bigger and perfection kills dreams and breaks heart. I spent too many years in the down spiral of perfection. So today. as a new wife, as a new neighbor as a new employee I remind myself of the truth I know that grace is bigger and that I have to continually choose it in order to live a life of present over perfect.
In the last two weeks, I became a wife and to say my dreams came true would be an understatement. I love being a wife to my handsome husband. I love serving him. I even love being able to spend time setting up our house. Even in the midst of hard marriage talks and fights, life is filled with joy… until I listen to the voices in my head, telling my decorations aren’t good enough. my dinners are gourmet enough, and heck I am not even good enough for my sweet husband. And when I sit down and listen to these voices, I realize what soul sucking lies they are. So this week I made a decision that I would choose present over perfect. I would choose to be in the moment, good and bad because I only have this life to live. As I sat down I realized that the more I chose the present over “being perfect” the more I was able to see the grace at work in my own life.
I’ve always been the biggest people pleaser. I want everyone to be okay with my choices and okay with who I am. If I am being honest it used to kill me when someone didn’t like me. But when I live my life dictated by the standard of perfection that I and other people set for me, I am even more of a mess. I am a stress case. I control, anything and everything in my life. I miss out on life. And I am the worst version of me. And the worst part is that I believe the lie that life is a story about me.
In my heart, I truly believe in grace. A grace so scandalous that it not only saved my soul but it truly took a wretch like me and used my story to bring glory to the One who wrote it. I believe that grace saved my life and saved me from destroying myself. When I lean towards perfection I don’t recognize grace and even more I don’t exercise. I believe that I can do it all on my own and frankly I don’t need any help. I am more selfish than ever. And I end up on the kitchen floor in tears because the room doesn’t look perfect, and I am exhausted and I haven’t eaten because I’ve been too focused on my selfishness. That is what perfection does, it wrecks me but grace it saves me.
So today, tomorrow, this week, and here after…I’m deciding to live in the present. I am choosing present over perfect. This is where I get to see grace at work. My friend, life is hard but it is a million times harder when we let perfection rule it. So how about you choose present over perfect? How about you take some time to live in the present and see grace at work? It is worth it I promise
You are loved and you are worth it!
9 thoughts on “Present Over Perfect”
Hi There, Martha Kate. I stopped by from Living in Yellow and I am so happy to be here! This post really spoke to me and I love your new outlook on life – to live in the present. I too often forget to do that and then find myself robbed of precious moments that I was trying to make so perfect. Thank you for sharing and really shining a light. oxox, Amanda
Amanda, thank you for reading! It truly is a joy to be able to share!! Xoxo MK
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This is an amazing post! and something that I always struggle with as well. love it!
Thanks so much for stopping by! Glad it resonated with you. Xoxo MK
Beautiful lady, I understand. I’ve spent pleanty of afternoons crying over how full of imperfections I am. I’ve even taken them out on my boyfriend. Today, I was crying because I was sick and tired. So I took it out on him asking him why he hasn’t realized he could do better. He stood strong, right beside me, for the both of us. It’s hard. It’s really really hard. But you have to believe in Grace and better things, otherwise, this can destroy you.
You can do it.
LOOOOOOOOOOOOVE THIS! So many of us (especially women) struggle with perfection and it blinds us to the things around us. Being present is so important because we may miss out on something so special! Such a great post!
Love this post! I’m stopping by from the Peony Project because your name caught my eye because it is the same as mine! And I’ve never met another Martha Kate, so nice to meet you! 🙂 But I am so glad I stopped on over because I needed to read this today. The Lord has really had being present over perfect on my heart lately. So thank you for sharing this!
Love that. Never met another Martha Kate either. Welcome! So glad you stopped by and that it touched your heart. Xoxo MK