Why I Am Throwing Out New Year’s Resolutions

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I could have never imagined what my life would be life 365 days ago. In a short year’s time, I got engaged, quit my job as a wedding planner, raised my entire salary for my new job, became a wife, an RUF intern, and a Waco Resident. I moved from the only place I had every called home to a small town that I was’t quite sure of. I married my best friend, insanely in love, but having no true idea what marriage would be like. I became a mentor to many students in which I had to admit that I too did not have my life together. And in all that I fell more in love with this place I call home, more in love with my best friend, and more in love with these students I have the privilege of walking through life with. 2014 was a year I will never forget. So here I am six hours from the new year and looking back there is not a thing I would change. I made mistakes and I learned from them, but without these mistakes and triumphs of the past year I wouldn’t be where I am today. So my friends, I want to let you in on a little secret I am not making any New Year’s Resolutions and I want to encourage you not to either.

As soon as I was old enough, I jumped on the idea of making new resolutions at the beginning of each year. It was an opportunity for me to lose weight, do better, and ultimately “become more perfect”. I started off each year with the idea that this would be the year I was size x. This would be the year that I got the guy. This would be the year that I would be recognized for my grandiose achievement. In short, this would be the year that I would become perfect MK. As you can see by day two I was exhausted by my strict regiments of what I should and shouldn’t do in order to have the perfect year. So after years of being controlled by perfection, I am throwing the resolutions out the window. Because really they mean nothing to me other than an excuse to exercise my perfectionism.

So this year I have an idea for you or more for us. What if instead we made a decision each day to love more when someone is unloveable. What if each day we decided that we wanted to step outside our comfort zone. What if we showed grace to ourselves and others when it is the hardest. What if we encouraged each other instead of putting one another down. What if we realized that some days are hard and require more love and care. What if we pursued that dream we are terrified of.  What if we realized that some days we may do none of the above and other days we might feel like we are on top of the world loving others.

That is what I want my new year to be about, making choices each day and pursuing grace instead of perfectionism. If I’m honest by the end of each year I couldn’t have told you exactly what my resolutions from the year before were. This next year I want to smile as I look back and know that it may not have been a perfect year but it was filled with grace.

Here is to throwing out resolutions and wishing each of you a beautiful New Year!

All my love,

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11 thoughts on “Why I Am Throwing Out New Year’s Resolutions

  1. Oh, how I love this! I have found myself making small, manageable goals each month. They seem so much more attainable. I have never really made resolutions. Not ones that I really worked to keep. This is so beautifully written! Excited to share, sweet lady!! Happy New Year!!! xoxo ❤

  2. I enjoy reading successful stories–I’m really glad you’re choosing to do something every day! I finally realized that making small short-term goals (i.e. monthly goals) are much more doable than general, yearly goals. Basically, my 2015 resolutions was to just keep doing what I’m doing cause it’s working! I wish you the best in the new year!!

  3. “That is what I want my new year to be about, making choices each day and pursuing grace instead of perfectionism.:” Yes!! Me too 🙂 Cheering you {and me} on this new year!! 🙂

  4. This is such a refreshing outlook! I mean I can certainly see why people use the start of the year to better themselves, but I think your promise to simply love more pretty much encapsulates all elements of self improvement!

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